{"id":545,"date":"2019-04-30T10:39:23","date_gmt":"2019-04-30T14:39:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/milestonesandtransitions.com\/?p=545"},"modified":"2019-04-30T10:39:23","modified_gmt":"2019-04-30T14:39:23","slug":"adoption-reunion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/milestonesandtransitions.com\/adoption-reunion\/","title":{"rendered":"ADOPTION REUNION !"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ancestry.com; 23and me;\u00a0 AND ME !!!<\/p>\n

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Genealogical websites like\u00a0ancestry.com<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a023andme.com<\/a>\u00a0have transformed the Adoption world.\u00a0\u00a0 Years ago, an adopted person wanting to access his or her original birth records and social history information, had to jump through many hoops, and even after doing so, there will still lots of barriers.\u00a0 Adoption Reunion was not even a possibility that adoptive or birth parents could conceive of in earlier times.<\/p>\n

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From the 1940\u2019s through the 1980\u2019s in North America [and in other parts of the world, too], typically governments formed even more layers of government institutions and administrivia to \u2018help\u2019 adult adoptees and named birth parents [this left out an awful lot of birth fathers who had never been named on birth certificates] access both non-identifying and sometimes identifying information.\u00a0 In many instances, the parties were able to put vetoes on their information being released and some governments instituted stiff fines and even jail time for contravening a veto.\u00a0 Talk about punitive!<\/p>\n

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Many self-help organizations were born to help adult adoptees and their birth families find each other, but the parties usually still had to go through the governments\u2019 gates [often locked ones at that].<\/p>\n

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Ancestry.com and\u00a023andme.com<\/a>\u00a0and other genealogical websites have dramatically changed the playing field and Adoption Reunion has become an important part of many adoption stories.<\/p>\n

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One of the most important \u2018findings\u2019 from these websites are the discovery of relatives one may never even have known existed.\u00a0 And Adoption Reunion or Finding My Birth Parents or Finding the Child I placed for Adoption years ago suddenly became accessible and relatively easy.<\/p>\n

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But [and it\u2019s a big \u2018but\u2019], this new and unexpected information has shaken many to their core.\u00a0 There a men clearly identified by their DNA as fathers who never even knew they fathered a child!\u00a0 Women who kept their pregnancy a secret from everyone [even their parents and sibling] who have suddenly been \u2018found\u2019 by the child they placed for adoption.\u00a0 This new information is almost always overwhelming!\u00a0 It can be exciting; it can \u2018suddenly\u2019 answer so many questions a person may have felt about him or herself and perhaps not fitting in to the family who raised him or her.\u00a0 It can provide a sense of peace to birth parents who always wondered what happened to their child.\u00a0 It can also strike fear into the hearts of those who were promised absolute confidentiality.\u00a0 Remember, Open Adoption [fully identified adoption] is a relatively new phenomenon [since the late 1980\u2019s] and many birth parents were told they would forget about the child.\u00a0 [P.S.\u00a0 they never did forget].<\/p>\n

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So\u2026..YOU have suddenly received all this genealogical, DNA information about yourself.\u00a0 What to do?\u00a0 For many, it makes sense to consult with an Adoption Reunion specialist to:\u00a0 examine and work through the information; consider it and think about who and when you might contact \u2018new\u2019 relatives and perhaps even ask the Adoption Reunion counselor to make the initial, sensitive, discreet contact with your birth relative.\u00a0 And\u2026..what about your parents?\u00a0 Your adoptive parents?\u00a0 When might you involve them?\u00a0 Your birth parents?\u00a0 An Adoption Reunion specialist can help you consider various scenarios.\u00a0 Perhaps your birth parent will be grateful to hear from you.\u00a0 Perhaps she or he never told her or his spouse and other children that you were born.\u00a0 How might you feel when you find out that an aunt is actually your birth mother?\u00a0 You may feel you have been lied to all your life by the people you thought were there to love and provide for you.<\/p>\n

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Adoption Reunion is fraught with so many things; so many considerations.\u00a0 At Milestones & Transitions, we would suggest that all persons have the right to know about their origins.\u00a0 We are here to work with you [and your families], walk the journey with you, offering support, wisdom from our experience and will act on your behalf to reach out to those you have found.<\/p>\n

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It really is a new world.\u00a0 We are experts in Adoption and Adoption Homestudies and we are here to support you if you wish.\u00a0 Contact us at:\u00a0\u00a0info@mandt.ca<\/a>\u00a0or 416 486 1056 for a complimentary telephone or video consult.\u00a0 Through the advances in telecommunications, we can work with you no matter where you are!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Ancestry.com; 23and me;\u00a0 AND ME !!! 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