{"id":516,"date":"2018-11-23T16:16:17","date_gmt":"2018-11-23T21:16:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/milestonesandtransitions.com\/?p=516"},"modified":"2018-11-23T16:16:17","modified_gmt":"2018-11-23T21:16:17","slug":"donor-sperm-donor-eggs-anonymity-learned-nothing-adoption","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/milestonesandtransitions.com\/donor-sperm-donor-eggs-anonymity-learned-nothing-adoption\/","title":{"rendered":"Donor Sperm, Donor Eggs and Anonymity: Have we Learned Nothing from Adoption?"},"content":{"rendered":"
By:\u00a0 Michaele-Sue Goldblatt, <\/em>MSW,RSW<\/em><\/h6>\n
23 November 2018<\/em><\/h6>\n

\u00a0<\/em>In yesterday\u2019s newspapers and on Facebook, I saw no less than three articles on:<\/p>\n

    \n
  1. Legalizing payment for Donor Eggs and Surrogacy<\/li>\n
  2. Abuses by doctors who provided their own sperm in artificial insemination forty years ago, and<\/li>\n
  3. Implications of availability of DNA through various websites<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

     <\/p>\n

    And the above doesn\u2019t count an article I read two weeks ago about\u00a0 \u2018donor sperm half siblings\u2019 who are forming Facebook groups and then actually meeting.\u00a0 These are people who discovered they are half siblings, conceived by donor sperm from donors who gave sperm to clinics hundreds of times.<\/p>\n

    There are a great many issues that I might consider, but today, I\u2019d like to talk about anonymity<\/strong> and the promise<\/strong> made to donors that the child resulting will never know who the donor was.<\/p>\n

    In North America, Western Europe, Australia, South America and likely in Asia as well, Adoption in the first part of the 20th<\/sup> century and certainly up to the 1980\u2019s, was generally anonymous, meaning that the records were sealed and the \u2018parties\u2019, being the biological parents and the adopted child had no way of ever knowing who the other was.<\/p>\n

    In many instances, certainly in North America, Ireland, Great Britain, Australia [and likely elsewhere as well], a girl or woman who became pregnant while unmarried or by a man other than her husband, was stigmatized and carried great shame and the children born of such a union were called \u2018illegitimate\u2019.\u00a0\u00a0 Many pregnant young women were sent away\u2026.to an aunt or uncle far away, to a home for unmarried mothers or were sometimes actually hidden away in their own homes\u2026in order to keep the pregnancy a secret.<\/p>\n

    The unmarried mothers were told \u2018you will forget this\u2019, which, of course, we later learned, they never did, and were urged to \u2018get on with their lives\u2019 after the birth and adoption placement of the child.\u00a0 Those mothers [and fathers if they were named and part of the decision] were promised anonymity.<\/p>\n

    Adoptive parents were encouraged to tell their children they were adopted and were given social histories with all identifying information removed so that they could only tell their children very little about their biological backgrounds.<\/p>\n

    However, adult adoptees began to speak out<\/strong>\u2026..in the 1960\u2019s, 1970\u2019s and beyond, wanting to know who they were, wanting to know their background and wanting to know \u2018where they came from\u2019.\u00a0 This included wanting to know identifying information about themselves.\u00a0\u00a0 They lobbied to unseal records, sometimes successfully, sometimes not.\u00a0 Various groups representing differing parties and differing points of views lobbied for continued secrecy.<\/p>\n

    In the 1970\u2019s and beyond, as social workers and others became more aware of the normal<\/strong> needs of people to know who they were and in response to the growing movement of adult adoptees demanding open records, adoption began to change and today [2018], many if not most domestic adoptions are fully identified and with some degree of openness and contact over the life of the adoptee.<\/p>\n

    Adopted persons have spoken, written and lobbied about their need to know who they are and about the feeling they had previously of being treated as children throughout their lives\u2026.that \u2018someone\u2019, generally the government of the jurisdiction in which they were adopted prohibited them from getting their own original birth certificate and identifying information.<\/p>\n

    It seems to me [and to my colleagues at Milestones & Transitions], that current policies, arguments and practices regarding donor sperm, egg and various other aspects of reproductive technology are denying the children born from these methods of conception are repeating the very same mistakes<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

    It is our experience that people have an innate desire to know who they are and where they came from.\u00a0 Perpetuating anonymous, secretive practice and policy is, in our view, repeating the ills and dangers of the past.<\/p>\n

    If YOU were conceived through reproductive technology, what is YOUR view?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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